Well I went and did a very man-like thing this past Saturday. I completely forgot that it was valentine's day. I did manage to figure it out when my girl began crying a bit on the way to my friend's place in Futian - on the bus - when I passed a rather large sign @ window of the world that said "Happy Valentine's Day." The bulb lit, the connection was made and all too quickly everything made sense; the excessive swearing over the phone at my friend by aforementioned female (which I mistook as sarcasm and bullshit for laughs), the knives of negative energy flying off of her in all directions paired up with the silent treatment as we made our way out from my apt that morning, and a few other things where are really none of your business ;).
I found it funny as last year I had gone to great lengths to ensure my hunny buns was well taken care of and felt like a princess all day. Flowers in the apartment before she got home, dinner reservations at one of her favorite restaurants as well as your standard "Honey you look beautiful!" behavioral and responce patterns (genuine? but of course!) Interesting how one can change so much in so little time. The shift to China was one of priorities as well as geography and the new emotional/interpersonal landscape is not without its pitfalls.
I found it funny as last year I had gone to great lengths to ensure my hunny buns was well taken care of and felt like a princess all day. Flowers in the apartment before she got home, dinner reservations at one of her favorite restaurants as well as your standard "Honey you look beautiful!" behavioral and responce patterns (genuine? but of course!) Interesting how one can change so much in so little time. The shift to China was one of priorities as well as geography and the new emotional/interpersonal landscape is not without its pitfalls.
Last night I got home around 1:30 am and decided to watch "TCCoBB." I thought it would be a nice capper to a weekend filled with Diablo II and an upset girlfriend (your "fuzzy" math may lead you to a different solution). I was... taken a little offguard by the flick, not just because the cover listed playtime (1hr 20min) was completely wrong (I've learned to expect such things from 10RMB DVD's sold on 3-wheel bike carts), but also by the nature of the film itself and its thematic implications. They struck a cord within me that has been touched before by other "life story" movies such as "Legends of the Fall" and "The Notebook" (shut up...) I know brad pitt being in 2/3 of those flicks isn't helping my case much either.
Anyway the point of the matter is that after watching it I was left in an uncomfortable spot of reflection. Initially it was near unbearable to assume the true position of either of the main characters in the film - then its implications to my own journey struck me a little off-balance. A man on a journey backwards biologically bound to a world moving forward, at the end forgetting everything as a child in the arms of a lover at her end as an old lady. Thoughts brought me to what I beleive is a big "why" that those of younger generations have trouble dealing with their elders. They represent an eventuality that we have no interest in dealing with before we have to. It is a shameful loss to both parties - the value of their experience is lost in our neglectance. It is something I should challenge in myself when the opporunity arises.
Anyway the point of the matter is that after watching it I was left in an uncomfortable spot of reflection. Initially it was near unbearable to assume the true position of either of the main characters in the film - then its implications to my own journey struck me a little off-balance. A man on a journey backwards biologically bound to a world moving forward, at the end forgetting everything as a child in the arms of a lover at her end as an old lady. Thoughts brought me to what I beleive is a big "why" that those of younger generations have trouble dealing with their elders. They represent an eventuality that we have no interest in dealing with before we have to. It is a shameful loss to both parties - the value of their experience is lost in our neglectance. It is something I should challenge in myself when the opporunity arises.
That night I dreamt something of an oddity - I agreed to marry a woman, a very pretty woman who seemed to be in a very peculiar position. A man lived with her in the apartment next to mine where I also would be welcome to stay with her (and do naughty things, an offer I refused repeatedly). The man was a cook, apparently a very good one, but also seemed to have some sort of arrangement with the woman which I was unable to decern. Her dog also had AIDS (any freudians out there with insight into this?). Those are the big peices that I remember - sorry I couldn't get to a keyboard sooner after I awoke. Anyway that nature of the dream was enough to make me sleep through my alarm - as sometimes my emotionally taxing dreams do.
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